Relationship Struggles
When you keep having the same fights, or love each other but can't reach each other.
EFT / Attachment-Based
The Real Issue
Most relationship problems aren't really about the thing you're fighting about. Underneath the surface argument, there's usually a deeper question: Can I count on you? Will you be there when I need you?
When that sense of safety feels uncertain, everything becomes charged. You might find yourself attacking or withdrawing. Your partner does the same. And over time, the distance grows—even when you both want something different.
Understanding this pattern is the first step. But understanding alone rarely changes it. The work is in creating new experiences of reaching for each other and actually arriving.
How I Work With Couples
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
EFT is the most researched approach to couples therapy, and it's effective because it goes beneath the content of your fights to the attachment needs driving them. Together, we slow down the moments where you get stuck and find new ways to respond to each other.
Attachment-Based Work
Your early experiences shape how you show up in relationships today—how you ask for what you need (or don't), how you respond to disconnection, what feels threatening. When you understand these patterns with compassion, you have more choice in how you respond.
Individual & Couples Sessions
Sometimes the work happens best together. Sometimes one or both of you needs individual space to process what's coming up. I offer both, depending on what serves the relationship.
For couples facing trauma or deep-seated patterns that feel immovable, ketamine-assisted therapy can sometimes open doors that talk therapy alone cannot. We can explore whether that might be helpful for your situation.
Ready to Begin?
A free 15-minute consultation to see if we're a good fit and answer any questions you have about couples or relationship therapy.
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