Couples

The Real Issue

Most relationship problems aren’t really about the thing you’re fighting about. Underneath the surface argument, there’s usually a deeper question: Can I count on you? Will you be there when I need you?

When that sense of safety feels uncertain, everything becomes charged. You might find yourself attacking or withdrawing. Your partner does the same. And over time, the distance grows—even when you both want something different.

Understanding this pattern is the first step. But understanding alone rarely changes it. The work is in creating new experiences of reaching for each other and actually arriving.

How I Work With Couples

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

EFT is the most researched approach to couples therapy, and it’s effective because it goes beneath the content of your fights to the attachment needs driving them. Together, we slow down the moments where you get stuck and find new ways to respond to each other.

Attachment-Based Work

Your early experiences shape how you show up in relationships today—how you ask for what you need (or don’t), how you respond to disconnection, what feels threatening. When you understand these patterns with compassion, you have more choice in how you respond.

Infidelity/Betrayal Trauma

Infidelity and betrayal trauma can deeply disrupt a person’s sense of safety, trust, and emotional stability. Whether I am working with individuals or couples, my approach focuses on slowing down the experience so the pain, confusion, anger, and self-doubt that often follow betrayal can be understood rather than pushed aside.

With individuals, we focus on processing the impact of the betrayal and helping you reconnect with your sense of self, clarity, and inner stability. With couples, the work centers on understanding the relational patterns that existed before and after the betrayal, while creating space for accountability, repair, and honest emotional dialogue.

Individual & Couples Sessions

Sometimes the work happens best together. Sometimes one or both of you needs individual space to process what’s coming up. I offer both, depending on what serves the relationship.

For couples facing trauma or deep-seated patterns that feel immovable, ketamine-assisted therapy can sometimes open doors that talk therapy alone cannot. We can explore whether that might be helpful for your situation.